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To remember and make sense of things

Most of you know that in addition to this blog, I am also one of three hosts over at The Red Dress Club, with my lovely friends Cheryl and Katie.

Aside from my Friday posts, I have truly tried to keep these two blogs separate, even though I love them both. But just this once (okay, I’m sure I’ll do it again at some point, but indulge me) I would like to talk about what we’re doing over there.

We have one day a week where we post a writing prompt, and then another day when people come back and link up what they’ve written in response to the prompt. The writing is always amazing and the enthusiasm, contagious.

Although the prompts allow for both fiction and non-fiction writing, the posts written in response have tended to lean toward fiction, more often than not, and there’s just been something missing for me. I’ve wanted to write and read more memoir. (I don’t write fiction and at this point, have no real plans to do so.)

So, beginning this coming Tuesday, we will be adding another day of writing and I couldn’t be more excited.

We will offer a memoir prompt on Fridays and have everyone come back on Tuesdays to link up their offerings.

Memoir is my passion … it simultaneously energizes and soothes me. It also helps me to remember and to make sense of things.

And I want to share that love with anyone who will join me.

So, if you’re up for a challenge, follow me over there and see what we have in store for you!

The first prompt is up and ready for you.

Much love to all of you … thank you for indulging me.

And, I promise to keep the two blogs separate. For the most part.

Apologies

I’ve apologized for many things in my life.

I’ve apologized when I’ve done something wrong.

I’ve apologized when I’ve done nothing wrong.

The problem with the apologies I’ve made to make peace and ease awkwardness is that they will undoubtedly be issued to the same person for the same “offense” again, because the apology wasn’t for my actions, but rather for having hurt someone I love.

Let me clarify.

Say, for instance, I don’t call you for a while.  I get wrapped up in my own life, raising my children, loving my husband, keeping up with my blog.  I don’t choose not to call you, I just can’t find more than five minutes of quiet in a row.  Time passes and I know that you are growing angry with me. So, I know that when I do call you, I’ll need more time, since you are upset and I’ll need to address that.  So, I don’t call, because, well, I don’t have more than five minutes of quiet in a row. And in those rare instances when I do, I use those moments to keep my head from exploding.

So, what do I do with this snowballing situation?  Historically, I have always eventually broken down, shoved everything else aside, and apologized just to make peace. But the older I get, the more I just can’t do that.

I’m curious about your thoughts on apologies…

What is the goal of an apology?  To make ourselves or the other person feel better?

Is there a ritualistic element to apologizing…do we apologize because it is expected of us?

Do you ever apologize when you believe that you shouldn’t?

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Each and every day, I strive to appreciate the wonder, beauty, and whimsy in the small moments, the moments that, when strung together, form a lifetime.
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