All that we have: An anniversary letter

The London West Hollywood, The London West Hollywood bed, MacBook ProDear Craig,

As I write this, I’m sitting in my hotel bed, 400 miles away from you.

And in just less than an hour, it will be our anniversary.

But I am here and you are there.

And as much as it pains me to be away from you, I am here because of your endless, unwavering support, because you always encourage me to enjoy every amazing experience that comes my way.

I am so grateful that you not only love and believe in me, but that you buoy me as I explore my world.

The past year has been filled with things both amazing and challenging.

And while our days have been filled with incredible joy, heartache filled an unfathomable amount of space in our lives.

Thank you for remaining by my side through the weeks of optimism and the following weeks of disillusionment.

As we faced each new month with renewed hope for another baby, I was ever grateful to have you by my side.

As each cycle slipped through our fingers, I knew that I would crumble without you there.

And now, as we each come closer to accepting that we’ve likely reached the end of our infertility journey, I know that as long as you’re by my side, I will survive this.

We will survive this.

Thank you for continually reminding me that our love can withstand anything as long as we continue to approach our marriage with an honest heart.

Thank you for holding my hand when I cried and listening to me as I struggled to understand the whys.

And most of all, thank you for reminding me that we aren’t defined by what we don’t have…but rather, by all that we do.

I can’t imagine a day of my future without you in it.

And with your hand clasped firmly in mine, I’m certain that we’ll be fine.

Thank you for the gift of your love.

I love you beyond words,



  1. Laura

    I love this! I love that you have a healthy, strong marriage where you can appreciate the good times and learn from and lean on each other during the hard times. That's what it's all about. xoxo P.S. Craig, I'll buy Nichole some champagne tomorrow night to celebrate and I will drink your portion for you. ;)

  2. Alison

    Beautiful letter, Nichole. Happy Anniversary.

  3. Co-Pilot Mom copilotmom.vom

    Happy Anniversary. What a lovely letter.

  4. @BooYahDad

    To my incredible wife…..thank you so much for your words, your love and your friendship. As we celebrate our union today, I am so grateful for the family we've built together and the lifetime we're creating with our children. We'll always be in the same boat forever…

    I am so proud of all that you do and love to watch you shine. We all eagerly await your return home….we miss you!

    Happy Anniversary, babe. I love you so very much…


  5. Sherri

    Oh! You two have me all teary here! Seriously, you two are the best…and I wish you a very Happy Anniversary and many more years to come!

  6. Susan Cooper

    What a touching and beautiful letter. It's hard to add much more to so beautifully written from the heart. :)

  7. julie gardner

    This post was as beautiful as you are…

  8. Aleta

    You made me cry. Beautiful, heartfelt post. Sending you positive thoughts.

  9. lisa

    oh my goodness. in tears. thanks for being so open.

  10. I love that you two have been able to lean on one another during this time of struggle and uncertainty. I know that it doesn't make it easier, but I know that it has to make it more bearable to have someone by your side who understands, supports and offers encouragement when you need it. Wishing you nothing but the best. :)

  11. ksluiter

    aww. happy late anniversary to one of my favorite couples :) Chole and Booyah Dad :)

  12. Tonya

    This is beautiful, Nichole. Yours is a marriage that can and will withstand anything that comes its way. Wishing you a happy anniversary and tons more years of love, commitment, understanding and hand holding. xoxo

  13. angela

    Beautiful letter about a beautiful life together. Happy Anniversary my friend.

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