Parenting with grace

I heard it long before I saw it.

Bearing down on me, grumbling and rattling my entire bike.

I felt my body go cold as I glanced over my left shoulder and saw the dump truck growing closer to me as I approached the top of the hill.

In complete panic, I quickly turned my handlebars and my front tire hit a patch of loose gravel and my seven-year old body was thrown through the air and into a massive, immovable tree trunk.

On a street where I wasn’t supposed to ride my bike in the first place.

And then everything went dark.

When I woke, my mother’s face was the first thing I saw.

The sharp pain in my left wrist and the raw skin on my face contrasted sharply by the soft look of concern in her eyes.

She wrapped me up, whispered loving words, packed me into the car and took me off to the hospital, where my broken wrist was placed in a cast and the cuts and scratches on my face were treated.

And we went home, where my mother, confident that I was safe and would heal, punished me for breaking the rules by riding my bike on an unsafe street.

That she took time to comfort me when I needed it and then held firm to her rules helped shape the mother I am today.

There are times when I see in myself that same ability to be both firm and soft…strict and kind.

And as I look at my children, I am so grateful to my mother for being my everything as a child.

For loving me unconditionally, but also teaching me right from wrong.

This parenting thing isn’t easy, but she handled my childhood with a grace that I can only hope I’m showing to my children.

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  1. Sherri

    What a wonderful moment to remember…and to share with us. Happy Mother's Day to your mom!

  2. Mom

    Thank you so much Nichole! What a wonderful Mother's Day gift! I have been blessed having you for my daughter! I love you so very much!! High as the sky—

  3. Mama, Hear Me Roar

    It's so important to hold both love and truth together isn't it? I love how you've described it here.

  4. Rachel

    Love this Nichole!!

  5. twertman

    Love your video!

    And it is so true, thanks to our own mothers we learned how to be one.

    Alas, since my mother is no longer here, I'd make a video for my sister. 🙂

  6. Elizabeth

    What a beautiful tribute to your mom! And when I saw your mom's comment, I couldn't help but be a bit teary-eyed. =)

  7. John

    This is truly wonderful, Nichole.

    I pray I'm developing the "stern, but loving" look & behavior. I worry that I have a "yelling & irrational" thing going on, though. But, hey, whatever works :-p

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  9. Kimberly

    Love the video! And yes, we learn so much from our own parents!

  10. Laura

    This is lovely Nichole! That is such a fine line to walk as a mother – it is so wonderful to have such an incredible example to look to.

  11. Jessica

    What a great moment to remember and, as a single mom for years, I needed to hear that reassurance that your mom could be your "everything." Thank you. xo

  12. Bridgette

    I loved your story. I try hard to find that balance too. In making our children responsible, but still making them feel safe and loved when they make mistakes. I love the video too. What a lovely tribute and what beautiful children.

  13. christine

    What a beautiful post and video.

  14. Christina

    Ah…. mixed emotions with this one! I worry SO much about my kids that I often wonder if I'm letting the "grace" fall by the wayside. I need to work on myself and my anxiety so it doesn't interfere with my time spent with my kids. Thank you for the reminder 🙂 Beautiful story!

  15. findingourwaynow

    How lovely. Memories are our true treasures. They are always there to pull up at a moments notice, when we need them the most. Thanks for sharing yours.

    I just wrote a story about my mom. Sadly she is no longer here, so as an artist, I drew her some flowers and wrote a fun story that would make her smile, where ever she is.

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