The luckiest girl in the world

This week on Small Moments Mondays, I am honored to have my dear friend Melissa, from Confessions of a Dr. Mom, as guest host.

My fondness for Melissa began from reading her words and blossomed when I met her in person.

I’ve written about her before, about how much I enjoy her company. She has a calmness about her…a gentle and soothing nature that truly feels like a hug.

I am so grateful to call Melissa a real friend. And this piece that she wrote for Small Moments Mondays is so incredibly lovely and is written from a place of true vulnerability and honesty. I identify so strongly with this piece that my heart nearly burst when I read it for the first time.

Thank you, Melissa, for sharing your words here and for your friendship. I am so blessed.

The Luckiest Girl in the World — by Melissa

Driving home from the ultrasound, the news was still settling in. When you find out news you have secretly been wishing for, you don’t necessarily celebrate immediately. You ponder the accuracy of it. Hesitant to start planning and dreaming about what life will be like. However, I could no longer suppress my smile. Visions of tiny pink onesies, hair bows, and dresses came rushing to me. We are having a girl. “I can’t believe it!” I said excitedly. I glanced over at my husband who had been quiet, maybe in shock. I wasn’t sure. Then out of the corner of his mouth came a smile. Clearly, it was still sinking in for him too. Then I noticed the tears filling up his eyes as he said this: “I can’t believe one day I will be walking my daughter down the aisle on her wedding day.”

Those words hit me hard. I was not prepared. I was barely grasping the concept of holding a tiny baby girl in my arms. I could only get as far as dressing her. Here was my husband emotionally preparing himself for the day he would have to kiss his unborn daughter good-bye on her wedding day. It was then that I realized how lucky our baby girl already was.

Memories of my own father started creeping in and I could no longer deny them. For I had spent most of my life wishing I had a different kind of father. A father who didn’t drink. A father whose body and soul weren’t at the mercy of his alcoholism. A father who would guide me through life, providing stability and love. A father who would be present for my moments, both big and small. A moment like my wedding day. He was not there.

I glance over again at this man sitting next to me, my husband, and I’m filled with a deeper appreciation and love. He is already a wonderful father to our son and now, our unborn daughter. I knew instantly he would be the kind of father she deserved. He would guide her with strength and love. He would be there for dance recitals, gymnastics meets, and soccer games, whatever she chooses to do. He will be there.

Our daughter is now three years old and I am more certain than ever. He will continue to share in her joys and weather the storms. He will withstand the tantrums, the eye-rolls, the tumultuous teenage years, and whatever else she may throw his way. He will be her father through it all. And on that day, when she may need him the most to comfort and reassure her, he will be there. His heart filled with pain, pride, and an insane amount of love, he will walk her down that aisle and kiss his baby girl good-bye.

This is why my daughter is the luckiest girl in the world.

Now that you’ve read Melissa’s heartfelt words, please go visit her.  Be sure to read the heartbreaking Crashing Down. You’ll also love How Parenting Advice is Like GPS.  And lastly, don’t miss Breastfeeding Broke My Heart, a piece that shows Melissa’s strength of character, dedication to her children, and extreme honesty.

And once you’ve visited her, be sure to find her on Twitter and Facebook.

41 comments

  1. Megan-Best of Fates bestoffates.com

    Aw. This post makes me want to hug my dad.

  2. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Oh Nichole, thank you so much for allowing me to share this story here. I knew this was the place for it. I too, feel incredibly blessed and thankful for not only having the pleasure of reading you here, but for having the honor to know you in person.

    Thank you doesn't seem enough. Honestly, this piece feels like it was always meant to be shared here on your lovely site. THANK YOU. XO

  3. Yuliya shesuggests.com

    What a beautiful moment Melissa! I know I've said this to Nichole before but the same goes for you, isn't it great to know amidst all of the uncertainty of parenting you made one choice that you know is right? Picking the best daddy out there for your children!

  4. Peggy

    I was happy to hear you say how lucky your children are to have their father. So many people usually think only of how lucky to they are to have these beautiful children that are like a gift from God, but often don't think of just how lucky the child is. I also look at the parents, and think "how lucky for that child to have such loving parents."

  5. SquashedMom

    Hey, Melissa, just lovely. I often think about how many of the amazing parents I know came from families that were so broken, and they have this incredible determination to break the cycle and bring to their children the full gift of parental love and acceptance. And also how much these parents appreciate both their children and everything about their current circumstances, that they never for a moment take love or happiness for granted. I am so glad that you have found your way to your own lovely happily ever after. Happy Valentine's Day!

  6. Wonderful choice! Melissa is one of my favorite bloggers; she is so kind and supportive.

    This post makes me so grateful for my dad. Sometimes I think we take what we have for granted, and it takes a look at the other side for us to remember. I am so happy for Melissa that she found a partner that is a loving husband AND an excellent father.

  7. Klz

    My husband was desperately wishing for a girl so he could take her to father-daughter dances which melted my heart. I'm glad your husband is so good to you all.

  8. Efloraross thewriterrevived.com

    This is beautiful! My husband desperately wanted a girl. I wanted a boy. I'm not in to pink, hair bows or dresses. ;) But I love my daughter, and the special relationship between her and my hubby is so touching. I actually wrote about it on my blog today, too!

  9. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    That is so true Yuliya. This is one choice I know I made wisely :) Thanks!

  10. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank You. Yes, I agree any child who has two loving and involved parents…extremely lucky :)

  11. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you so much, that was such a lovely and kind comment :) Happy Valentines Day to you too!

  12. Jill haglerhappenings.com

    I love this, but it's no news that I love everything from Melissa. :) That daddy-daughter bond is so incredibly special.

  13. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thanks Angela! I am so grateful and so glad my children have an amazing role model in him:)

  14. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thanks KLZ! It's funny, because right now she is a total Mama's girl but I know it's just the age. Pretty soon, they'll be having a blast at father/daughter dances :)

  15. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Oh, I can't wait to read your blog post today. There really is something so special and sweet b/w dad and daughter:)

    BTW, my girl is really into all that girly stuff…I never was. It's so funny :)

  16. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Yes, go give your dad a big, huge hug! :)

  17. What a perfect post. I wished for those parents too – two of them.

    It is the best gift of parenting in the world your husband – and you – are giving.

    And that is the gift of you.

  18. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you Jill, you are very kind :) Yes, that daddy/daughter bond is so very important and special.

  19. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you Lori. XO. I could not have said it better myself. It's really all children need…us. :)

  20. beautiful. i hope to experience that good news someday too! (although boys are pretty awesome.)

  21. Rachel mommyneedsavacation.com

    Melissa, what a beautiful post! Sadie is so Daddy's little girl and I love it!

  22. Mad Woman adiaryofamadwoman.com

    One, Nichole you are so right. Melissa does have this aura of calm about her. Just makes you want to stay near by and hope it rubs off on you…Melissa, I regret not spending more time with you but that was my immediate impression of you when we met. And I am so glad that I had that opportunity.

    Tears are running down my face as I remember the moment of knowing we were having a daughter and watching all these wonderful thoughts cross the face of my husband. He was so proud and excited and immediately in love. And I believe I fell in love with him even more that day.

    Thank you for giving us this glimpse into your world. And how appropriate for today.

  23. Leighann

    Beautiful writing. Your story took me back to when I told my husband we were having a girl. Super.

  24. So beautiful!

  25. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Boys are pretty awesome! Enjoy :)

  26. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you Rachel! Isn't it cute to see them with their Dads?

  27. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you, you are so kind! I was so happy to meet you too and look forward to our next meeting :)

    I know, something so amazing and special between a father and daughter :)

  28. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you Leighann :)

  29. @sogeshirts twitter.com/sogeshirts

    Great post Melissa. Some real beautiful emotions in that one. Your husband is the type of dad I want to be someday when I have kids.

  30. @adriennemay twitter.com/adriennemay

    Thank you for sharing.

  31. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Aww…thanks! Sounds like you'll be a pretty amazing dad!

  32. Absolutely beautiful. You made the choice to recreate for your daughter a relationship you didn't have in the first place; a second chance for you to be a part of something special.

    My father was wonderful and for that, I am forever lucky. My daughter, too, has a wonderful man for a father, another link in the chain of happy father/daughter connections.

    So this Valentine's Day, I am grateful for Daddy Love. And cheers to you, Mama. For making it happen for your little girl.

  33. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you Julie! Definitely…grateful for wonderful Dads :) And, like you said, I hope the link continues on in our son because he has such a great role model!

  34. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Awww, thanks! I'm sure you will be a wonderful Dad when the time comes:)

  35. MelissaDrMom confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you!

  36. ksluiter

    We have a little boy.

    But when we were dreaming of what he might be, and we thought about what having a girl would be like? My husband teared up and said the same thing.

    That is when I fell in love with him all over again.

    there is nothing more wonderful than a caring, protective daddy.

  37. Sherri

    This is absolutely beautiful, and what a tribute to your husband, Melissa! I love how dads can see things so differently than we do, and it just adds to that whole relationship you had before kids.

    So nice to see you over here, hanging out with one of my favorite friends!

  38. Melissa confessionsofadrmom.com

    I know…caring, protective dads are really amazing! And? They're really amazing with sons too!

  39. Melissa confessionsofadrmom.com

    Thank you Sherri. I'm definitely thankful :) And…Nichole is simply amazing :)

  40. Melissa, what a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing it with us all. Your daughter is a very lucky and blessed girl. That's always been a wish of mine too, to have that kind of father, and I am SO grateful and excited for my daughter that she has, exactly, the kind of Daddy she deserves :)

  41. I know exactly how she feels. My girls are so lucky to have their Daddy.

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