Pushing and pulling

This week’s host for Small Moments Mondays is truly delightful. Even if I can’t figure out how Allison can do art projects, bake luscious treats, take amazing photos, and do it all with grace and ease, I still love her.  Allison blogs over at Alli ‘n Son. I’ve mentioned her here before and I just think the world of her.  I love that her blog always holds a surprise and she isn’t predictable.  She touches your heart, fills your belly, and inspires you with her photos.

Thank you so very much, Allison, for being a part of this series.  I count your friendship amongst my many blessings.

Pushing and Pulling — by Allison

When Nichole invited me to take part in her Small Moments Monday series, I have to honestly say, I’ve been waiting that this moment would arrive for a long time. I first met Nichole a few months ago as we both took part of the SITS girls 31 days to a better blog. I follow and her husband on Twitter (can you say adorable) and you can truly see their love for each other. It’s so awesome.

When I started thinking about my post, a recent comment from a fellow stay-at-home mom came to mind. She had recently declared that she wished she could rush through the toddler and baby stage to the school age stage. She just isn’t good at the younger stages, she claimed. While I can totally relate to her, it made me a little sad to think that she wants to miss out on some amazing small moments.

Lately I find myself both willing time to move quickly and to slow down at the same time. I’m pulled into the future, and yet pushed into the past. I sometimes have trouble finding a good balance of living in the now.

As anyone with a toddler knows, it’s hard work. There are constant power struggles, tantrums and fits. And that’s just from me. There are toys on the ground that always end up under my feet, fights over getting dressed, battles during meals, and the constant whine of n0000000000000 echoing throughout the house.

Terrible Twos

These. These are the moments that I want to rush through. Not all of the small moments are precious, and some days it seems like I won’t make it out alive.

And yet…

There are small moments that I don’t want to miss by rushing through this age. I can’t imagine life without the moments when the kiddo gently presses his hand to my face, and softly rubs my cheek as we cuddle in his bed before the end of the day. The contagious laughter that erupts unexpectedly at the oddest things. The way he hugs me with so much force, as if he’s afraid that I may vanish after we let go. How he greets my husband at the end of the day, all squeals and smiles and jumps of excitement.

These small moments of utter sweetness. These are the ones that I want to hold in my heart forever. If I had a super power, it would be to slow down or stop time so I can grab onto these moments and take in every second. I’d lock them away so I can recall them later on, when I need a reminder of the sweetness that is sometimes hiding behind a willful toddler.

It’s a tough balance, parenthood. Not letting the hard moments outweigh the soft moments. Not wishing away our kids’ toddlerhood with the hope that it will get easier as they grow older. I’m sure that it will in someways. But in different ways, it will be harder. Hurrying through the small tough moments {although they feel huge at the time}, you just may miss the small moments that make it all worth while.


Pushing and pulling is the way of life. It’s up to us to find the balance of staying in the present, of living the moments that we have now, while looking forward to the joys that wait for us in the future.

Allison is a slightly OCD momma (yes, M&Ms must be eaten in pairs of matching colors) who blogs over at Alli ‘n Son and tweets at Alli_n_Son. She’s the momma of a spunky, energetic, and frustrating two-year-old boy. You can often find her up to the knees in potty training, bubbles, and all things balls. She’s also a wanna-be photographer and gourmet chef, a highly creative woman, and one-time graphic designer, all rolled into one.


  1. Yuliya shesuggests.com/

    Oh those photos are perfection. I bet having a camera in hand helps with staying "in the now."

  2. Peggy

    Beautifully said, Allison. I loved your description of the balancing act, between the hard moments and the soft moments, and trying to live in the moment now, and still look forward to the joys ahead.
    I loved the photography too. It definately helps tell the story.

  3. ksluiter

    this is lovely and well said. i have had a similar post on my heart for some time now. between this post and your Nichole (about anxiety), I may be able to put what is on my heart into words.

    thank you for your honestly, allison.

  4. KLZ taminginsanity.com

    Pushing and pulling is the perfect phrase for parenting. Thanks for pointing it out. I'm doing it every day but didn't have a name for it.

  5. 2old2tap 2old2tap.blogspot.com/

    Allison, you have it exactly.

    My “baby” is 27 now with a toddler of her own. So I’m getting to relive the moments as gramma. And I think I’m paying better attention this time.

  6. This is a very good way of expressing this feeling. Sometimes? There are moments that are really tough to navigate. Sometimes? Those moments drag on interminably. And other times? There are these beautiful little things wooshing by almost before I can grab them & experience them. *sigh*

    Also? I prefer to eat M&Ms in color matched pairs. :)

  7. Jen wantapeanut.com

    Beautiful photos and lovely post. As the mom of a 3 year old and an 18 month old, thank you for this reminder!

  8. Kristy pampersandpinot.com

    Sometimes those rough moments make you wonder what kind of little monster you have on your hands! And then, those good moments, take all those thoughts away and all is well!

  9. Leslie crunchybetty.com

    Aw, just lovely. Your photography is always sooo breathtaking. Some day, your toddler's going to be all grown up and REALLY appreciate the talent his mom has!

  10. Oh…no…don't let her rush. (Like you're in charge or something?)

    Someone said, in response to my echoed thoughts, the days are long but the years are short.

    They will be gone so fast.

    And it takes a little perspective to realize that those children will be gone too.

    We forget, because we think of ourselves who change so little in a few years, that our those wee people will be gone.

    You have the right of it – savor each of the small moments. Each and every one.

  11. Cheryl @ Mommypants mommypants.com

    I believe that is the gift of my third child – I am REALLY savoring the moments because I see how fast the others have grown.

  12. kris

    Love these photos. Love.

    So far, though? For me?

    I am delighted with the passage of time. I remember who my daughters were, but I am beyond thrilled with who they are at this very moment. And I cannot wait to see what comes next.

    Time moves as it has always moved.

    So I try not to push or pull.

    Mostly, I think I am successful.

    Love this post.

  13. Alli_n_Son

    You're right, it really does make you focus on what going on in that moment.

  14. Alli_n_Son

    Thank you Peggy!

  15. Alli_n_Son

    I'd love to read your post when you get it together. Send me an email when it's ready.

  16. Alli_n_Son

    How fun! My parents are doing the same thing. This time around there's a lot more spoiling though. :-)

  17. Alli_n_Son

    Really, is there any other way to eat M&Ms?

  18. Alli_n_Son

    So very true! Those good moments make it all worth while.

  19. Alli_n_Son

    *blush* thank you Leslie!

  20. Alli_n_Son

    I couldn't have said it better myself.

  21. Alli_n_Son

    Thank you Kris. It sounds like you have the perfect balance going on.

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