You know those people who just seem completely unflappable? You know the ones, those people who can have challenges heaped upon them and they still manage to stay (relatively) sane and upbeat. That’s how Kristin has always seemed to me.
I remember getting to know her on Twitter during those middle of the night feedings when our babies were younger. I sat there, bleary eyed, nursing Matthew, checking Twitter to see how many times she’d been woken. We bonded over extreme exhaustion and I’m grateful to have had someone who was going through the same experience I was. Misery does, in fact, love company.
I seek Kristin out when I’m having a rough time, as her silliness and quirky sense of humor can brighten any day. She’s the kind of person I would love to have living next door…someone who could be the Laverne to my Shirley. We would be the cause of far too many mishaps. But, the fun we’d have would be ridiculous.
I love this post that she has written to share with us. It shows a more serious side of her personality and it speaks volumes about what a beautiful person she is. I consider myself so lucky to have met her.
Stress and the Meaning of Life — by Kristin (KLZ)
My life goes through what I’ve lovingly dubbed “stress cycles”.
It seems that for whatever reason, every few years everything converges on me at once to create a cyclone of crazy through which I must navigate.
When I was 21, I was in college full-time and getting things ready to graduate. I was also working an internship full-time, buying a condo, looking for a permanent full-time job and packing my things to move.
I’m embarrassed to say, I watched a lot of Fear Factor during those four months. My brain could not compute anything more intelligent than that. I sat and stared at the screen. I may have drooled.
After I graduated, I thought I may have escaped the horror of these stress cycles. I planned a wedding and got married without anything else attacking me. I got pregnant and had a baby and our lives were as calm as that period of time can be.
But now? Now we are trying to find David a new job. And buying a house for which we have no closing date. And planning Alex’s first birthday party, in that new house for which we have no closing date while coordinating my sister’s bachelorette party. And dealing with renting our condo out. And both my parents turn 60 in the next two months. Did I mention my in-laws are in from out of town for ten days and would like us to entertain them?
The events themselves are not unusual but the rapidity with which they’ve piled onto one another is astounding. They’re also all directly dependent on one another. We can’t buy the house without renting the condo but we can’t rent the condo until we find out the closing date. Fun things like that.
Yet even in the midst of all this stress, there is peace.
Seeing my son smile as he sits a top his father’s shoulders, using David’s hair as a handhold for stability, I can’t help but see how beautifully blessed I am. My heartbeat slows, my shoulders relax.
These tiny things, these small moments, are what it’s all about.
Sitting on the floor, making jokes with my mother, sister, husband and future brother-in-law while my son plays happily, is a small, loud moment that brings me inner calm. Should we be sitting on the floor? Perhaps not. But how else would we see the magic that flies from my son’s finger tips? How else would we catch the knowing looks that pass amongst us? How else would we revel in being together? There are other ways for other families. But this one is ours.
I can’t imagine another place to be that would bring me so much joy.
No matter what house we’re in or what stress cycle we have thrown at us, we are together.
And that is the biggest little thing of all.
And now? Hop on over to Taming Insanityto say hello to Kristin. Be sure to check out my absolute favorite posts, We’re Not In Chicago Anymore, Dressing Myself, Things I learned as a Child, and Sweet Charity. I have absolutely no doubt that you’ll love her as much as I do.
Thank you so much, Kristin, for coming over and hanging out with me today.