A Tale of Two Kitties

As we prepared to take away Katie’s beloved pacifier when she was 21 months old, we did extensive reading about how to help her with the transition.  We were worried that it would be a traumatic experience for her because, since she had only ever been allowed to have her pacifier in bed, bedtime had always been such a happy time. (I wish that we had captured on video the way she would just lunge out of our arms for her crib.)

One of the things that we learned about easing the transition is that it was important to introduce a lovey to help her feel secure in her bed each night.

Provided with a several choices of lovies, she quickly and happily chose a little white cat. The kitty isn’t allowed out of her room, as we thought keeping it there would make it special and would give her something to look forward to each night as we put her to bed. (Honestly, we were hoping for her to lunge for it as she had for her pacifier!)

When your child adopts a lovey, you are advised to buy two, just in case you ever lose one.

So, good little parents that we are, we did exactly that.  Here is Katie’s lovey, who she creatively named “White Kitty,” as it looked when we first bought it…

Super cute, right?

Katie loves this kitty … she has loved it so much, in fact, that this is what it looks like today…

And side by side, White Kitty with Replacement Kitty, you can’t help but notice that we’re in really big trouble.

What are the odds we’d be able to replace the kitty without Katie noticing?

So, my advice? When you buy a lovey, definitely buy two, but be sure to rotate them out!

Otherwise, you’ll find yourself with one pristine lovey and one that looks like it’s been run over a bus.  Many times over.


  1. Adrienne nopointsforstyle.com

    That is one well-loved kitty! I think you better just save replacement kitty for Katie's little girl and expect to sew some patches on the old one.

    Because your girl will KNOW. Oh yes, she will know.

  2. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    That kitty? Is proof that love is a verb!

  3. Coma Girl comagirl.net

    Good advice! I've never even thought of that.

  4. Maryline francoamericandream.com

    I literally laughed out loud when I saw the picture of the two kitties together, my husband even asked "what's so funny?".
    But I am dying to know, how did the bye-bye paci transition go?? (My son is 16 months old, he too looks forward to nap/bed time because that's where paci waits for him! We call it "tety" for tetine = French for pacifier).

  5. Bad Mummy

    The Mook's lovey is a white teddy bear. I'm still cursing the half-sister of mine who (despite having two boys of her own) figured a WHITE teddy bear would be an appropriate gift for a baby (my own damn fault for keeping it around for The Mook to fall in love with). So, of course, it's the ONE THING that The Mook adores and carries back and forth from her dad's house and mine. I have thrown it in the wash. I have soaked it and scrubbed it. It remains a dingy brown-grey color.

    There is, however, hope. Teddy got left at her dad's place on Friday. It's now Tuesday. She has been FINE without it. Just fine. I asked her on Friday if she wanted us to go get Teddy and she said a very polite "No, thank you". I think it's helped by the fact that she's fallen in love with "Brownie", the name she has given my childhood teddy. Brownie remains at our home because when she took it to her dad's, it would return smelling of cigarette smoke (I know, I know…nothing I can do about his bad – and unhealthy to our child – habits) and I put my foot down: Brownie stays home with me. And yes, he stays in my bed to keep me safe.

    There's a 3rd lovey in her life now, thanks to the daycare teachers' suggestion that she have a separate lovey that stays at school. The little rabbit is her snuggle toy for school, as they still have a rest period, even in JK/SK. Rabbit doesn't go to either home, to avoid the inevitable drama over it being left behind and The Mook being short a snuggle toy when rest time rolls around in the afternoon. Those daycare teachers…S.M.R.T!

  6. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Taking the pacifier was actually a breeze.
    Here's what we did:
    I poked the end of it with a pin to make a small hole, just big enough that she couldn't get great suction. She barely noticed. As the days passed, I made the hole bigger and bigger, eventually cutting off the entire rubber part, leaving only the hard plastic, which she slept with for months after.
    Two important things to remember–do it slowly and NEVER let him actually SEE you doing it. When he notices, and he will, just act like you don't know what happened.
    I truly thought it was going to be a rough road, but it was so easy.
    Good luck!

  7. Alli_n_Son

    My son has 6. Yes 6. Two large talking Elmo's, two small Mickey's, one Curious George. And the lovey to end all lovey's, a smaller Elmo, who the kiddo absolutely can not sleep without.

  8. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    The image of your daughter holding Brownie close brings tears to my eyes. To think that you both take comfort in the same lovey is such a beautiful shared memory.

    Yes, those daycare teachers have tons of great tricks up their sleeves, don't they?

    Your love for your daughter shines through in your stories. She is one lucky little girl.

  9. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Wow…6! What do you do when you travel?
    Katie has a ton of animals in her bed and she loves them all, but like your son and his smaller Elmo, the kitty is number one. Hands down!

  10. Alli_n_Son

    He brings Elmo and one or two other "buddies" as we call them. We couldn't fit everyone else in the car otherwise!

  11. Andrea

    We put my daughters beloved puppy “in the washer & dryer” and it came out all clean! Imagine that! :) we threw puppy in the dryer at the end of the cycle (when she wasn’t looking) and then had her get him out. She was a little suspicious for a few minutes, but quickly forgot all about it.

  12. I still have my one and only childhood lovey. Try putting a little kitten collar on the kitty if she ever leaves the house with it. That is what my mom did with my dog lovey.

  13. businesslorelei

    I didn't let Child A have a pacifier. Because I was stupid. I didn't want him to be dependent on it.

    What was he dependent on instead?

    Us walking him around.

    Like I said. Stupid.

  14. MamaOnDaGo mamaondago.blogspot.com/

    My children also have a lovey. They call theirs Tay-Tay. It's basically a receiving blanket you would use to wrap a newborn in. We literally own a minimum of 20 between the two kids.

  15. dadstreet DadStreet.com

    O never got into a lovey or a blanket or anything like that. In fact she never cared for the pacifier and stuck to sucking her thumb. She still sucks her thumb at 27 months (only while sleeping) which we think is okay for now but we'll want to rid of sooner than later. I'm not sure why she never got attached to any one thing. She does have a few stuffed animals in her crib…Pooh, a doggie, a lovey but she's never been really attached to one.

    With Jake we don't know yet since he's barely just 1 but maybe he'll be a bit different. He's never sucked his thumb and uses the pacifier when he sleeps so we'll see.

    I like your chair! Was that weird?

  16. THEMrsDay mrsday.com

    I had to do this with my son's pacifiers. Had to keep two and rotate them because they would expand as they got older, he liked it, and giving him a new one just did NOT work. Actually, maybe it did, because when his pacifier cracked, and I gave him a new one, he rejected it and never took one again. lol

  17. Shawna

    I wish I could send you a picture, I have the same thing. My son's "Velveteen Rabbit" is a "Doggiebaby" and he looks totally different from the backup one! (it should be, since it's been washed over & over for 10 years now) Poor old Doggiebaby doesn't leave home, he has his own bed that sits beside my son's bed.

  18. kris prettyalltrue.com

    Once, when Kallan was in 1st grade . . . her class had a "bring your favorite stuffed animal to class" day. Kallan brought Mimi, a white stuffed dog with whom she had slept since the age of two.

    Everyone else's stuffed animals? Were new or barely touched.

    Kallan's Mimi? Was old and gray and tattered.

    She thought all the other children were idiots for mocking her.

    And every night when I tuck Kallan into bed? Now that she's a big 4th grader?

    I also tuck in Mimi.

    Old and gray? Is not bad.

  19. Chelsea Hebert

    Oh my God, this is so funny, Nichole! You should seriously submit some of these writings to a parenting magazine. So many people can appreciate this stuff!

  20. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    That's amazing that you still have it!
    I honestly don't remember if I had one. I've been meaning to ask my mom.

  21. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    And I always thought you were so wise! :)
    I was so reluctant to give Katie a pacifier, as I didn't want to deal with the struggle to take it away. But, she wanted to nurse every five minutes, and well, I was quickly a convert!

  22. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Now that is ridiculously smart!
    Do you rotate them or are they content with whichever one they have at the moment?

  23. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Kids are funny, huh? You could hand pick a lovey and there's no guarantee that they'll take to it. Some kids just aren't interested. I'm eager to see if Matthew will choose one…aside from ME that is!
    And thanks for the compliment on the chair. :)

  24. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Now that is the BEST story I've heard about stopping the pacifier habit. You should share that tip with every parent you meet! :)

  25. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    That is so incredibly sweet! I sometimes wonder what will happen to White Kitty when she outgrows it. Perhaps it will get its own bed like Doggiebaby!

  26. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Old and gray? Beautiful.
    Whenever I look at White Kitty, all is see is love. That's not such a bad thing, is it?

  27. Nichole inthesesmallmoments.com

    Hey Chelsea!
    So great to see you here. :)
    You know who should submit parenting stories? Your mother. That woman has more wisdom in her pinky than I have in my entire body!

  28. We had to buy a new puppy after a terrible vomit incident that rendered the old one unusable. There was a vast difference, but luckily he didn't care!

  29. Sherri

    Oh, poor Little White Kitty! The Replacement Kitty is so fancier, but not as well loved…

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