The Most Difficult Part …

…of being a parent for me has always been knowing that one of my jobs as Katie’s parent is to help her to learn independence, in varying degrees, starting from the very first days of her life.

We taught her to fall asleep on her own, without needing us to rock her until she was sleeping.

We encouraged her to sit independently…

to stand, to walk…

…to run. 

We encourage her to participate at gymnastics, playdates, and birthday parties without needing us by her side.

In a few short years, we will drop her off for her first day of kindergarten and we will sit in the car, holding hands and crying, as we know that everything that we have done for her thus far has been to foster a sense of self and independence so that she wouldn’t completely depend upon us.

Then, years down the road, she will leave for college, most likely never to return to live at home with us.

And as much as this will hurt, I pray that we have given her the tools–independence, self-confidence, determination–to be just fine on her own.

This is our job as parents.


  1. Beautifully written, and the photos are breathtaking. The best parenting advice I ever got, hands down, was this: Never wish happiness for your children. Instead, teach skills.

  2. Kris

    I LOVE your photos! They tell the story without the words, but the words make me feel as though I know you. Just a lovely job of capturing the anguish that is a part of parenting. That whole "letting go" thing.


  3. Nichole

    The letting go part is truly the hardest.
    Sometimes I look at these two sweet babies of ours and it breaks my heart to think that the day will come when I won't see their smiles first thing every morning.
    I do try to remind myself that although they will leave one day, that day isn't here yet, so I try to live each moment to the fullest.

  4. Nichole

    That is such a beautiful piece of advice.
    It seems that we are now faced with a generation that does not reflect this ideal. That makes me sound really old doesn't it? "Kids these days…"

  5. Lyndsey

    "Never wish happiness for your children. Instead, teach skills." I love this advice!!!! Enough said!

  6. Nichole

    That is truly some of the best advice I've gotten in a long time.

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